Wednesday, January 26, 2011

I Can't Believe I'm One of Those Moms

Every now and again, I realize that I'm one of those moms who has no control over her children. It literally brings me to tears.

I am a stay-at-home mom of 2 boys under 5 who thinks she can handle it all. Obviously, I can't. Which brings me to my latest debacle - taking both children to the doctor's office. I know some of you moms can relate and are already nodding in agreement when I say "nightmare."

My 4 year old has some allergy-related issues that I need to see several specialists for on a somewhat frequent basis. Since all of these appointments are during the day, I drag the 1 year old along with us. I don't have a babysitter (I know, I know), my husband is at work all day, and my parents are up there in age so they can't possibly handle the 1 year old (aka demon seed).

I've been taking the 1 year old along with us for office visits since he was born, and it's gotten increasingly worse. I am drained and worn out by the time I get back in the car to go home. He's all over the place. He's yelling. He's screaming when he's told "no." Today, while in the pulmonologist's office, he pulled off and broke a vertical blind. One word for you all - MORTIFIED!

I can't believe I'm this mom. I can't believe I have children who break things and yell and run around like wild animals. By no means am I a pushover. Actually, many think quite the opposite. But I've seen too many news reports where moms have their children taken away for hitting, smacking or using any other disciplinary action in public (which I personally think is b.s. - please for the love of God do not tell me how to raise my child and then take that child away when I'm trying to raise him.) But I digress . . .

I can't remove my misbehaving 1 year old from the situation because I'm in a doctor's office with my 4 year old. Under any other circumstance, we'd be gone. I don't have anywhere else to bring him and I just wish he would behave. I love my children and how spirited they are, but I wish they could reign it in at times. Oh, and by the way, I have no idea what the pulmonologist said about the 4 year old because the 1 year old was trying to flip upside down out of my arms. Yup, one of those moms . . .


  1. I am right there with you! I am one of them, too. I told my husband that for my "break" I wanted to go to the grocery store alone... it would be like a spa day. I wish I could reassure you that it gets better... but my boys are 11 and almost 6 and I am still waiting.


  2. That is a hard sitation. I think you need to find something that the one year old likes (toy wise) that is portable that he can only have when he is at the doctors office or other waiting rooms. That way, he has something "special" to keep him occupied. It is difficult how little control we really have over our kids. I have been thinking about this with my teen. Luckily he is a good kid, but if he decided he didn't want to be, there is not much I could do...he is already in military school.

  3. I think that all moms have had a "can't believe I am one of those moms" moments with our child(ren). I know that most recent I am having them with my 4 year old. She is so well behaved for everyone else except me. No matter at home or in public she just does things that I am mortified about. I keep telling myself that she will out grow it and I can't figure out why in the world she LOVES to test my patience because I am by no means and "easy mom"
    Everyone keeps telling me it is a phase and I swear it better pass quickly.
    I agree with Michelle to bring something to keep him occupied..
    Wishing you peace of mind and patience :-)
    and sending HUGS your way!!!

  4. I feel for you. I have been there. I raised 3 boys and 1 girl it's not easy but, did seem to get better as they grew older. I suggest a portable dvd player with head phones and educational dvds for important occasions like Doctor visits. This seems to work for two of my grandchildren.
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  5. I am so sorry, and I totally identify with you! Being a mom is very often the pits, wonder why none of the how-to books warned us of that? We all suffer from being "that mom" that we never thought we would be. It happens and then we get the sweet dividend of watching our kids be wonderful people later on. You will survive this.

  6. Aw *tight hug*. This too shall pass (at least that's what they say whenever I don't know what to do with my daughter :). But I honestly don't think it has anything to do with YOU, and for sure that doctor has already seen much worse! I think we mom get more embarrassed than we need to be.

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  7. LOL 2 weeks ago my older daughter had a checkup scheduled and that day my baby had 104 fever so they scheduled him to come in at the same time. I was on crutches so my stepmom was going to stay home with the younger two, but since I then had to take the baby in she came along to help carry and wrangle. So there we all were in a tiny inner room, 1 very sick baby, me on crutches, my step mom, and my 2 daughters running ALL over the place, getting into the medical stuff in the office, spinning around on the doctor's stool, and not listening to a word I said! Our doctor came in with a script for my daughter and jokingly told me it was a script for Zoloft for me. :) I said, oh gosh if you can prescribe for adults I'll totally take it after today!!! :)

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  9. I can totally relate. My son is so incredibly antsy every time he has to go for a check up or a sick visit I want to lose my mnind. I've actually texted my husband from the doctor's office to say "you should kiss the ground you never have to take E to the doctor."
    The last time I took him to the local immedicenter for a cold a doctor we had never seen before was actually inquiring if he was ADHD within 5 minutes of meeting us. I'm so proud. (rolling my eyes.)
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